Dandelion

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

I feel like everyone who follows me deserves a shout-out for handling the constant whiplash that scrolling through my blog has to be.

*Good Omens fanart*

*impassioned ramble about hope and positivity*

*criticism of current social welfare system*

*Good Omens drabble*

*Torah commentary and musings*

*ask game*

*response to an ask from a totally different game I reblogged months ago*

*highly depressing reflection on historical and contemporary antisemitism*

*horrible pun*

Kudos for sticking it out.

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anonymousdandelion
anonymousdandelion

So hey, in case anyone on Jumblr organizes “pluralistic” Jewish programming that is meant to be inclusive of Jews from any movements… please remember that being inclusive means making activities accessible to those who are halachically observant?

Because it is so frustrating and painful, as someone who believes in the value of pluralism and wants to connect with Jews both like and unlike me, to be repeatedly slapped in the face with the realization that 90% of the time I cannot participate in most non-Orthodox-specific Jewish communal opportunities because of my Judaism.

The food isn’t kosher, the bonfire is in the middle of Shabbat, the party conflicts with Megillah reading, Havdalah is hours before sunset…

And though I doubt it’s usually coming from a place of deliberate exclusion, the message it sends regardless of intent is You are not wanted.

anonymousdandelion

Thinking back to some discussion in the notes that happened earlier about this sort of thing "going both ways", I think it may be worth underscoring: This post is not (just) about feeling socially alienated by being "the odd one out," having to deal with misconceptions, insensitivity, prejudice, microaggressions, etc.

All of the above are very real, can make things very uncomfortable, and they definitely do go both ways. They are a problem no matter who they come from. And they come from super frum people, super secular people, and those anywhere in the middle of the spectrum. (And I am by no means exempt from mistakes, misconceptions, or unfortunate wording, and I welcome feedback when I slip up!)

But.

That is not what this post is about. This post is not about other attendees at the event talking about how backwards and oppressive halachah is. This post is not about mistaken assumptions that nobody keeps kosher unless they're "ultra-Orthodox." This post is not about awkward conversations, rude comments, or poor choice of language.

This post is not about uncomfortable interactions — even extremely uncomfortable interactions! — happening at the pluralistic event.

This post is about literally not being able to attend and participate in the pluralistic event in the first place.

And while there are certain instances in which I do think an imperfect parallel can be drawn (nonbinary Jews wanting to attend an event that has a mechitzah comes to mind as an example), by and large this does not seem like something that goes both ways. But maybe I'm wrong.

anonymousdandelion

This post is also not about individual communities that are not welcoming to Jews from other communities. There's a discussion to be had about inter-movement relations, absolutely. But this post is not about that discussion.

If I go to an event hosted by a Reform community, I don't expect the food to be kosher according to Orthodox standards. It would be absolutely lovely and amazing if it was — but that would be above and beyond, and there is no reason a Reform shul should be expected to go out of its way to cater to Orthodoxy or to any other movement. A Reform event is supposed to be representing the Reform community.

Similarly, while I love to see Orthodox communities striving to be accessible and welcoming to those from all backgrounds, there is no reason an Orthodox-hosted event or shul should be expected to go out of its way to cater to Reform or to any other movement. An Orthodox event is supposed to be representing the Orthodox community.

But I don't think it's unreasonable to say that an organization or event which is explicitly purported to be pluralistic and non-denominational should be willing to go just a little bit out of its way to avoid making participation impossible for an entire segment of the pluralistic community that they claim to represent.

anonymousdandelion

One further point of clarification: saying "the needs of traditional Jews matter" does not equate to saying "the needs of liberal Jews do not matter."

(Or if it does, then pluralistic values are impossible. And I hope that's not the case.)

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wenevergotusedtoegypt

It’s not that Orthodox Jews just somehow don’t comprehend that making pluralistic events Orthodox-friendly can be difficult/expensive/complicated compared to not doing so. But like. If that is too much to ask for, then just admit that your event is not in fact pluralistic. It’s perfectly ok to have events that aren’t pluralistic. Just don’t pretend you’re welcoming to everyone when you are davka choosing not to be.

anonymousdandelion

THIS, thank you.

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polls food rice definitely the stove it’s not going to burn unless you forget about it which I would definitely do so I set a timer to remind me and the problem is solved
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zayathekid

am i insane or should masks be mandated for hospitals as a permanent installation. a forever institution. always. covid is an irrelevant factor when hospitals are always full of both very sick and very immunocompromised people..?

aurorasulphur

Sometimes I remember that before AIDS, gloves weren't standard in all medical situations. Someday we will look back on pre mask days the same way.

masks seriously like I wish people had been willing to suck it up and keep wearing masks in grocery stores and the like but I get it but hospitals?!?! this seems like a no-brainer
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ironfoot-mothafocka

99% of non-Jewish trans and queer folks angry at wizard game will in all honesty not give a flying crap about Jews the rest of the year so Excuse Me if I don’t buy your performative “boycott goblin blood libel game - if you don’t you’re literally a Nazi”.

Where are y’all gonna be at the end of the year? Still going as hard against antisemitism? Or is it just for now because there’s something easy you can get points for. Answers on a postcard.

You gonna support Jews for Racial and Economic Justice? And spaces for Jews of colour?

Want to know when our holidays are so you can be mindful of social scheduling?

Want to know more about Israel/Palestine and how not to be antisemitic about it? A nice lefty leaflet to start you off. Also here. (And yes, probably most Jews will feel some Kind of Way about Israel. Yes, a majority of Jews will be some kind of “Zionist”, or at least not non-Zionist. That’s kind of what happens after generations of trauma. Yes only supporting Good Jews is antisemitic.)

Want to be a better ally in leftie spaces? Tips on addressing antisemitism when you see it out of Harry Potter games?

Want to support transgender and queer Jews?

Want to do interfaith collaboration or learn more? Ask your Jewish friend to attend a service or holiday event or meal. Find out what’s going on in your local Jewish community and what’s important to them. Have no Jewish friends? If so, why not?

Cause to me it seems that every time a Great Badness happens to the Jews, you goyim seem to care. And at other times when we’re not in the news, we drop off your radar.

Funny.

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coldbloodace

I think part of why I love Good Omens so much is that it has slowly made me fall in love with the world again.

Aziraphale and Crowley have been on this planet for over 6000 years. They'd have probably seen every horrible, nightmarish thing that the humans would have come up with. Still, they chose to save the world. Why? Because there's also good stuff here on earth. There are bookshops and restaurants and James Bond stickers and Shakespeare plays. There are plants to terrorise and ducks to feed. There are lunch dates to go on with your best friend. And those things are worth living for.

Good Omens showed me you don't need some grand, noble reason to love and save the world. It's okay to love selfishly. That was, and still is, a very important lesson to me. The few months after I watched the show were some of the lowest and loneliest months I had lived. GO pulled me through it, and more importantly, taught me to live again, to find joy in the world the way I did when I was younger.

I think Adam also played a part in it, because the first time I learnt about the damage we're doing to the environment I was very upset and thought if the humans started all over again we could make it better. Watching the Them's story arc soothed that inner child in me that hadn't got resolution yet.

I don't think anybody will see this, but I want to thank the people behind Good Omens. I want to thank Neil and Terry for writing it, for the cast and crew for bringing the story to life, and last but not the least, to the GO fandom. The story and its people have enriched my life and I'm very happy to be a part of it.

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unbidden-yidden
cryptonature

Learning to delete/mute/block before a negative comment takes root in your mind is a modern survival skill. If you're going to wander the overgrown countryside of the internet, you need to develop a quick eye for ticks.

It's deeply tempting to respond to the "well, actually," to the cruel assumption, to the unjust accusation, to the odious viewpoint. It's tempting because you're defaulting to the etiquette of dinner conversation. This isn't a dinner conversation. Someone is shouting at you from a moving car. Turn away.

copperbadge

This is an extremely good and helpful sentiment, and one I’ve subscribed to for a long time. Delete the message quickly and permanently. Last time I got a nasty anon ask I skimmed it, realized what it was, and deleted it. Did one or two phrases sit with me for a while? Sure, maybe 20, 30 minutes. I really wanted to respond. But if I had, that cannonball would still be hanging around my neck and present on my blog, and as it is I don’t remember what it was about or even those two phrases that I thought I would. 

I also am of the opinion that it INFURIATES the commenter/sender not to get a response, because why would they be a dickhead if they didn’t want a response, so the longer time passes without one, the healthier I am and the angrier and more anxious they are. It’s good for your mental health AND the healthiest form of vengeance! 

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embervoices
compassionatereminders

"No one can love you until you love yourself" is like the worst possible way of articulating "if you don't respect and value yourself, it's very easy to become attracted to people who don't treat you right and then justify their mistreatment, so be careful."

tribblehugger96

so THAT'S what it's supposed to mean. that actually makes sense.

embervoices

Also "It's hard to believe anyone loves you if you don't love yourself, even if they really, sincerely do." which has a side effect of meaning "You don't feel you've received the love that's right there in your inbox waiting to be received."

YOU ARE ALREADY LOVED.

But if you don't learn to love yourself, it's really hard to experience being loved.

anonymousdandelion

All of this, but especially the last bit.

And there is some truth to it as well in that self-loathing may lead to acting in ways that can push others away. (Source: it’s me!)

But there are still people out there who can, and will, and do, love you despite and through it.

(And this can be such a vicious cycle when framed in the other way. Because if you already dislike yourself, then it is all too easy to believe nobody else could possibly love you… and if you believe nobody in the world cares about you, that is definitely not going to help with building self-esteem.)

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authorofdragons

Acespec Comic Share!

Hi! Haven't been on in a hot minute but I'm Dragons, an agender aroace creator and i make the comic Skull & Pyro on webtoon and tapas, featuring two aroace queerplatonic husbands committing crimes and becoming a problem for everyone around them 💙🤍💛🧡 We got Bonehill the edgy intellectual who’s too tired to be an intellectual, and Zerako the sweetheart pyromaniac. They love headbonking like cats and cuddling and crimes 💕 Its a comedy fantasy adventure with minimal angst for thoust weary soul. Tis SFW, theres 1 brief kiss scene that half the readers didnt even realize was a kiss scene which is good bc i never plan on drawing one again BDJDJDKJDKDJ otherwise theres just a bunch of cussing and thats it.

Prompt: Share an old panel or page + a recent panel or page you’ve worked on

Here's panels from Chapter 1 Episode 3 (March 2020):

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Then here's panels from Chapter 2 Episode 1 (July 2022):

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finally Bonehill gained eyebrows and in general i got a better handle of Shapes and Color. also WOW I forget I started drawing Zerako's freckles really small,,,, now they are giant orbs SKDJFKSDJF the cool process of seeing character features simplify after drawing them 5349 times!!

I HAVENT BEEN ON IN A WHILE SO I DONT HAVE ANYONE NEW TO TAG SO ILL JUST PING MY USUAL BUDS @authorofthyme @ratonpersona @imstillgear and maybe more im forgetting im so sorry my brain has died. And check out @acesincomics who organizes this whole thing!

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unbidden-yidden
maimonidesnutz

picture of a carbon atom with the words “the whole world was created for me” and “I am but dust and ashes” written into their particles.ALT

There’s a teaching in Judaism that one should carry two notes, one in each pocket. One should say “I am but dust and ashes,” and the other should say “the whole world was created for me.” They are seen as opposites; you check one when you’re feeling down on yourself and the other when you’re feeling especially full of yourself. The idea is to maintain balance, but I think the way to achieve full harmony is to realize how they are saying the same thing.

That’s why I have imagined them as a carbon atom. Carbon is a main component of dust (and ashes), but also one of the main building blocks of life. Carbon simultaneously encompasses all. It’s in us, it’s in the stars, the planets, the trees. We are built to exist, yet we are also the building blocks of existence. If we keep both in mind, we can live in balance all the time.

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prokopetz

I often see tabletop RPG titles get the words "tomb" and "tome" mixed up as though they were homophones, even though they don't in fact sound the same, but I can't really blame folks for that, what with English orthography being The Way That It Is. There's no just world in which "tome" rhymes with "comb" and "tomb" does not, but that is the world we live in.

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