Thinking back to some discussion in the notes that happened earlier about this sort of thing "going both ways", I think it may be worth underscoring: This post is not (just) about feeling socially alienated by being "the odd one out," having to deal with misconceptions, insensitivity, prejudice, microaggressions, etc.
All of the above are very real, can make things very uncomfortable, and they definitely do go both ways. They are a problem no matter who they come from. And they come from super frum people, super secular people, and those anywhere in the middle of the spectrum. (And I am by no means exempt from mistakes, misconceptions, or unfortunate wording, and I welcome feedback when I slip up!)
But.
That is not what this post is about. This post is not about other attendees at the event talking about how backwards and oppressive halachah is. This post is not about mistaken assumptions that nobody keeps kosher unless they're "ultra-Orthodox." This post is not about awkward conversations, rude comments, or poor choice of language.
This post is not about uncomfortable interactions — even extremely uncomfortable interactions! — happening at the pluralistic event.
This post is about literally not being able to attend and participate in the pluralistic event in the first place.
And while there are certain instances in which I do think an imperfect parallel can be drawn (nonbinary Jews wanting to attend an event that has a mechitzah comes to mind as an example), by and large this does not seem like something that goes both ways. But maybe I'm wrong.